Pisces Love and Friendship

Romantic and Interpersonal Style for the Twelfth Zodiac Sign

Jan 16, 2009

Typical Pisceans are kind and self-sacrificing, and they have a strong need to be needed in friendships and romantic relationships.

Most Pisceans have an intangible quality that draws others to them, as well as the intuitive ability to pick up on the mental states of others. They also have a tendency to befriend or fall in love with those who need their help in some way. This strong urge to care for and rescue others can have beautiful or ugly results, depending on whether or not the other person is deserving of this care and focus.

Sensitive and Secretive

Pisces people may be hard to know or confusing to those around them because they can be deceptive about their feelings, in many cases even hiding things from themselves. This is usually done to maintain harmony, prevent conflict, or avoid hurting others, though occasionally it serves the Pisces person’s own best interests as well.

Because they are so sensitive, Pisceans are easily hurt, and must work hard to protect themselves. Many Pisces people, men in particular, adopt a tough or grouchy exterior in order to hide their vulnerability. Typical Pisceans find it easier to endure physical pain than emotional suffering.

Tolerant and Open-Minded

Typical Pisceans make good companions for those in crisis, as they are very sensitive to the feelings of others and will minister to those in need with great compassion. They are diplomatic and very tolerant of the quirks and flaws in other people, often showing the greatest kindness and understanding when others are at their worst. Typical Pisceans are also open-minded and nonjudgmental, which makes them great confidants. They look for the good in others and give people many chances, a trait that unscrupulous types may take advantage of.

Idealistic and Compassionate

Pisceans are romantic and idealistic about their relationships. Although Pisceans like to have an anchor, a person who is very solid, sane, and reasonable that they can count on, they are drawn to mystical, day-dreamy, or high-intensity types. Many Pisceans take this even further, choosing partners who are needy, disadvantaged, or even addicted or mentally ill, in order to fulfill their need to be needed. When the Pisces is able to save a deserving individual, the friendship or romantic relationship can be rewarding for both. However, if the other person is simply faking a condition or situation to get attention or resources, the Piscean can waste a lot of time and energy.

Intense and Chaotic

Pisces people often choose dramatic or chaotic partners. They are somewhat chaotic themselves (which is usually reflected in a cluttered home) and often favour passionate relationships over stable ones. Many Pisceans seem to thrive on strife and then wander off when things calm down. This stems from the Pisces need to be needed; if they feel that the other person can do quite well without them, they tend to redirect their energies toward those who can benefit from their care.

Pisceans seek intensity, even though this is probably not very good for them. They do far better with trustworthy, practical, earthy types than the insensitive and irresponsible individuals they are often drawn to. However, although the disappointments that come through poor choices may bring them very low for a time, Pisceans have remarkable powers of self-regeneration, and when they focus their attentions on those who are worthy, deep and beautiful connections can be forged.

The Atypical Pisces

The sun sign isn’t the only element that influences personality. Aspects and planetary placements, particularly the moon sign and rising sign (ascendant), are also important. For example, a Pisces with Taurus rising will be more stable and practical in making relationship choices, and with Aquarius rising, a Piscean will be less sensitive and secretive, and the desire to care for others is more likely to manifest as participation in projects, politics, or other activities focused on helping large groups of people as opposed to focusing on a single individual in need.

There are many websites that offer free chart calculation to determine other planetary placements and aspects. Learning these other planetary placements is recommended, as it provides a more comprehensive personality profile.